If you think you might have this disorder,seek the help of a qualified psychologist. You must commit to seeing someone many times on a regular basis before they can truly help you. If you do that, you may find that others that you care about will appreciate your efforts.
If you are the partner or spouse of someone with this disorder, your situation likely will not improve without significant psychological intervention and treatment. In other words, urge your significant other to enter therapy and follow through with recommendations.