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."Yes i have often felt really really tired of being a nice guy while the rest of the world treats me like crap. I always hate having my niceness being taken advantage of, and i just am tired of not being appreciated for being nice. I also dislike the fact that people look at me differently just because i act nicely towards people and because i treat people with the respect and kindness that i feel that they deserve. It definitely can get to you, and it can definitely make you just feel so tired that you no longer wish to treat people good and no longer want to be a Mr. Nice Guy."
This is an example of a person being inefficient at their social transactions the result of which is giving away too much. Typical symptoms include feeling like a nice guy followed by feeling tired, exhausted, resentful and bitter. Contrary to popular belief, being a jerk does not solve the problem of being a nice guy. The only thing that solves the nice guy syndrome is learning to properly conduct the social transaction. It means that you don't have to be a jerk, but you do have to realize certain transactions or certain people, or situations that cause you to give away too much and costs you social energy.